Frequently Asked Questions
What do we need to join?
This site has Membership Application Forms.
Please fill one of these in, before setting out to the club. We will reply to them all as quickly as possible, giving you an indication if membership will be accepted, or we are at capacity for a specific group. Couples and single females are welcome at the door, single males must wait for an acceptance email back from us.
When you visit us you will need a valid form of Photo ID for each member. This can be a driving licence, or a passport alongside a utility bill, or bank statement. We need you to prove to us, who you are, how old you are, and where you live.
You must be over 18 to join. Your information is stored by us, it will not be used or passed on to any other organisation, and we are registered with Data Protection under number ZA040964.
How do I get full membership as a single male?
This site has Membership Application Forms which you fill in as best you can. The form gives you the opportunity to add a full description, including such factors as other clubs you've visited, previous swinging experience, and what you're looking for. It also has a field to add your user name on any web sites you might belong to.
When an application hits our desk, the first thing we do is decide is there room for a single male! This is dependant upon the number of couples and ladies joining that week, as we try very hard to maintain a balance. Then we look at what you've told us about yourself. No description, no verifications on other web sites, or no effort, you'll probably get an invitation to join Flirts, rather than a full membership. This then gives you a second chance to impress us. At the end of the day, we are looking for smart, presentable gents who know how to behave, and understand the club swing etiquette.
What is the entry dress code?
Relaxed and casual, but clean and tidy please. Please feel free to utilise the bar area to tease if you wish.
Swingers Nightclub evenings in Xtasia: Friday & Saturday Evening
Guys: Please, make an effort. The ladies dress to impress you, please try to reciprocate. Dirty, scruffy, smelly will be turned away at the door, jogging bottoms and trainers are a definite no. Sexy, clean, smart, presentable will be welcomed in. Dress to impress the ladies. Entry may be refused.
Ladies: As erotic and flirtatious as you dare and are comfortable with. Changing areas have been provided, so bring along a choice of outfits if you wish.
Fetish Events:
Dominant black, leather, pvc, goth, master/slave, cross dressing etc. are all welcome.
Where is Xtasia and how do we locate it?
Why should we choose to visit Xtasia?
How busy will it be?
It's our first visit to Xtasia, what should we expect?
What should we bring with us?
Nothing is really needed at Xtasia apart from the following:
Your membership card, or ID as mentioned above if new.
Cash or card for entrance fee and bar.
We have a secure area at reception for mobile phones, ID and coats, and also lockers are available for a £10 refundable deposit for clothing.
We have the following available for you:
Condoms and Lube sold at the bar.
Free Towels provided for showers and wet area.
Drinks, we have a fully licensed and well-stocked bar.
Food, we provide snacks and savouries to keep you going.
Do we have to swing or get naked?
Do I have to wear a fetish outfit to the fetish events?
What ages, size, race, etc of people attend?
I'm a single male, can I just join in?
If a lady seems to be seeking lots of male attention, please do not just rush in. Wait for a signal from either her, or her partner, that clearly indicates you’ve been accepted. If you rush in with out this, you may end up causing a major disturbance, and also asked to leave the club.
Will we be hassled by single men?
Am I guaranteed play and fun?
If a lady seems to be seeking lots of male attention, please do not just rush in. Wait for a signal from either her, or her partner, that clearly indicates you’ve been accepted. If you rush in with out this, you may end up causing a major disturbance, and also asked to leave the club.
Do you allow smoking?
Do you allow chewing gum?
Do we bring our own drinks?
Please ensure you do not get drunk. Our licence is based on serving sober people, and should you get drunk, we will stop serving you, and ask you to leave the premises. In accordance with our licence we can not allow any drinks to be taken off the premises. We appreciate many people get nervous in this environment, but being unable to watch out for yourself, does not help anyone.
Can I come and go from the club?
Do we need to be on any Guest Lists
As members of Xtasia, you will always be welcome at events.
We do run guest lists, on lots of various swinger web sites, but these are predominantly to let others know you'll be attending, and do not restrict you from attending if you're not on the lists.
What it might do is limit your chances of winning a prize, or maybe getting in at a discounted price, but that is all.
Mobile Phones, can I take pictures in the club?
If you wish to do a photo session within the club, then please contact us directly for private hire information. We also do a Content Creators day once a month, where you can take professional images for yourself if you wish.
Is there CCTV inside the club?
We do have cameras inside the club and others outside protecting the building. The ones inside are:
Covering the front door, reception and cloakrooms, to protect your belongings and to cover any issues at the front door
Covering the staff only kitchen
Covering the bars
We now have two cameras covering the swim spa area in the new leisure facility. This is to ensure no sexual activity occurs in the pool, and for the safety of those using the pool.
These are recording for all of our security and piece of mind, and should not be seen as covert in anyway. All screens can be viewed by asking at the reception desk if you wish to see what is displayed. The data from these can only be requested by the Police following an incident in which the information might be of use. As a Private Members Club we restrict the viewing of this material to the correct law enforcement agencies, and only provide it when a crime has been committed.
We have one play area that offers a Camera to Screen experience. This is not recorded in any way, but purely transmits what is happening in one room, to a screen upstairs in the chill out lounge. The bed is very clearly marked, and is used by the more exhibitionist members of the club. If you wish to discuss how this works, please see a member of staff.
What rules come into play during BDSM play?
If you wish to do a photo session within the club, then please contact us directly for private hire information.
Please ensure you do not get drunk. Our licence is based on serving sober people, and should you get drunk, we will stop serving you, and ask you to leave the premises. In accordance with our licence we can not allow any drinks to be taken off the premises. We appreciate many people get nervous in this environment, but being unable to watch out for yourself, does not help anyone.
I'd like more advice on the scene, where can I find it?
The Fetish scene is best served by a site called Fetlife. Again once on the site, make sure to make friends with us under the name “Xtasia”
Can I hire Xtasia for Private Events?
Full Venue Hire can be negotiated for anytime when the club is currently closed. Depending on the type of event planned, the requirement for Xtasia staffing, and the number of guests involved, we would find and agree a pricing structure where all parties benefited.
Room Hire , including the dungeon is available for private meets and sessions at £30 per hour. 2 people entry. If you need something more than this, please contact us to discuss. Advanced notice of 12 hours or so is normally needed. We would expect you to bring your own insertable toys, but we can provide a range of whips and paddles.
Photography and Film work . We’d be happy to allow private and commercial filming work to occur throughout the building. It would make an ideal film set for a nightclub setting, or for porno films with a large choice of rooms. Ideal venue for Photo shoots for professional photographers. We can also assist individuals and couples who may wish to improve their own portfolio of shots, with a private session of photographs. If local photographers would like to contact us on the basis of us providing an extra setting venue, please feel free to contact us. The club was recently used for the film “The Marker” starring John Hannah, directed by Justin Edgar.
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Fetish membership to Xtasia is Gender Neutral. This is the only membership needed if attending Fetish events at the club.
If you require swinging membership, then this is based on your legal ID. If your driving licence states male, then single male membership is needed, however once that bit is done at reception, we treat you as you present at the door. Present in female mode, then female access and pricing applies. If transitioning, you can happily change gender with us as per any legal documentation.
Last Entry Times
The main Xtasia club shuts at 3am on a Friday and Saturday night, so last entry is 1am. After that time we feel you won't get enough time to socialise and enjoy the facilities.
During the week when we shut at midnight, we operate an 11pm last entry time.
Is the club Disability friendly?
Common Membership Questions
I have a couples membership, but we are no longer together, can I use it with a new partner? No sorry, the membership was granted to you as a couple, so is no longer valid. You will need a new couples membership, involving showing ID for both again, and please ask for the old one to be deleted.
I have a couples membership, can I come on my own? We allow the lady in a couple to attend alone, however due to the number of single men bringing along a "friend" to gain a couples membership, and then trying to enter solo the next week, we do not allow the named male to attend on their own.
I can't find our membership card, will I get in?
How many girls are working?
If you feel you need to ask this question, our club is not for you. This is not a brothel, and we do not employ working girls. If looking for a lap dancing venue, we can recommend our friends at BUNNYS CLUB , Dudley, about a 10 minute drive from us.
Please use google to find other local venues.
Our venue is open to couples, and singles, and we never know who is coming in and when. Some events we have well over 300 people in, sometimes you might be the only person at the bar. The ladies who attend, do so because they love the freedom to enjoy themselves, and are not paid to be here for your benefit.